Three Years a Wife
On March 30th, Mack and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary. Since it was a week day, we didn't do anything too special but we still had a blast. We didn't really feel like going out or cooking (even though we've had tons of fun with that in the past - Valentine's Day was amazing!), so we got a big order of sushi from our favorite local Asian restaurant. We watched stupid TV and after seeing Jess on New Girl with a pan of brownies, I was "inspired". I whipped up a little batch of brownies which we proceeded to devour while yes, still watching stupid tv. It was perfect and fun and I wouldn't have it any other way. We did want to do something a little more to celebrate though, so we decided to take the following Saturday to go to a fancy-ish, water front restaurant in Old Town Alexandria. At the recommendation of my friend, we headed to the Chart House. We made a reservation in hopes of getting a table next to a window. They sat us in a little intimate room with only four other tables and a fireplace and huge bright windows all around. Ambiance is a big thing for me, so it was absolutely perfect. We had a romantic (and delicious time). We got moscow mules, which are one of my favorite cocktails right now, and I was super embarrassed when I was carded and I spilled the entire contents of my wallet. Other than that, it was a perfect night. Little tiny bread loaves with fluffy butter, a crap dip appetizer, sizzling mushrooms and rare steaks, and a cappuccino later and we were stuffed. We weren't sure what we were doing next, but we decided to go walk around Old Town for a little bit and see if we had room for ice cream. The crisp air felt amazing while we strolled along and we had such a great time just being together. On the way back to the car we gave in and decided to share a small gelato from a cute little shop. It was one of my absolute favorite date nights and I'll never forget it.
In honor of our 4th year of marriage beginning, I thought I'd share some things that I've personally learned this year!
Accept your partner for who they are. Every once in a while, I feel a little bad for myself when Mack doesn't get me gifts or cards on holidays and special occasions. When that happens, I have to stop myself and think about other things that he's absolutely wonderful at. He is amazing at telling me how he's feeling. He will open up to me when I need him to. He tells me he loves me like a hundred times a day. He hugs me and kisses me and he puts up with me when I'm obnoxious or mad at him for no reason. Instead of focusing on his small imperfections, I need to continue to notice the abundance of other aspects in which he's a great husband. Nobody can be perfect, and while there's always room for improvement, it's good to focus on someone's strengths.
You will not always, 100% feel madly & deeply in love with your significant other. This doesn't mean you aren't in love with them anymore...it means you're in a normal, functioning relationship. Sometimes I will just stare at Mack's face and think about how gorgeous he is and how absolutely in love with him I am. I'm basically the emoji with heart eyes. Then, other times, I look at him and tell him I feel like punching him in the face. It's human nature to be annoyed at people and to forget the things you love about them on occasion. Maybe that's why people get divorced. But in my opinion, love is a choice. Obviously you can't choose who you fall in love with in the first place - but you can continue to choose to love someone after all the crazy feelings that come with new relationships fade to the background.
My husband is my absolute best friend on this earth. I have some amazing friends and family and I can talk to them about most of the things that go on in my life. But Mack is someone I always, without fail, feel safe and comfortable with. I can tell him anything. I can cry with him. I can laugh with him. I can be completely and totally myself around him and I never have to hide what's going on inside my head. He is my rock and I'm so glad we found each other at such a young age.
Really love life with him. Happy Anniversary, honey!